Saturday, 20 October 2018

Non-verbal No problem.

Aiden and Grandma going for a walk to the shops. 

Grandma came for a visit today, and almost as soon as she arrived, Aiden was getting his shoes and socks ๐Ÿ˜ He wanted to go out with Grandma. He more than likely wanted to go for a sleepover at Grandmas, but as she is working tomorrow. That was not an option, so we spent a long time politely ignoring his gestures of shoes and going out. But the persistent little bugger he is. 
He just wouldn't quit!
He had a wry smile on his face and a look of determination in his eyes ๐Ÿ˜ 'You will take me out' He said in his best Jedi Non-verbal mind trick way. 
We were wining.
We were standing our ground, and not putting his socks and shoes on for him because that would be game over! if we did. 

And then..........
He sat himself down next to Grandma. Kept looking over at her and me. And very patiently and with much struggling. He put his own socks on! ๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿค˜Aiden then went into a happy stim frenzy. He knew he'd done something BIG! It didn't finish there either. He also sat and figured out his shoes. fixing the Velcro and making sure they were the right feet. 

Once they were perfectly placed on his feet, he stood up and faced and bounced in front of Grandma. we are. 
Out with Grandma. The thing he wanted to do. ๐Ÿ˜€
He chose his snacks from the shop, and is now happily sat there. 
Grandma was free to go home without him piling on the guilt. He is happy now. 

Non-verbal = No problem ๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿค˜


Non-verbal day, Nov 2nd 2018

Hey guys. Just out of curiosity (and maybe more)
How many of you would be willing to actively take part in a non-verbal day?
I did one the other year, to try and better understand my son, and to see if I could feel the struggles he goes through daily..... Boy I did.
I gave myself all the aides that he has to his self. Pecs, talking tablet etc.... As well as body language and hand holding. 
I made sure I did it on a day that I was working and out in general public. I made sure I had to go as far out of my comfort zone as to best benefit from it (staying in the house and texting my wife for a cup of tea would've been a bit useless..... but not an idea I'm willing to count out in the future for my own benefit ๐Ÿ˜‰)
I documented my day.
I documented everything I have never noticed before. And how not being able to talk makes you act differently. And how incredibly hard it is.
It opened my eyes. And I saw how my son does things and why. And I understood a little bit more.
So........ Who's in?
I'm thinking November time.

Thursday, 18 October 2018

I hold my sons hand, and always will.

When I'm out with Aiden, I hold his hand. 
Because I love him. He's my son. 
But also as a safety measure, as he has been known to drop and roll at any time. 
It also makes him feel safe. He likes holding my hand. We can let each other know which direction we are going by turning our hands. Steer left to go left, right to right. 
It gives him the information as to where we are going. It helps him remain calm. It is another form of non-verbal communication we have together.

He is 9 now, and he is growing older day by day. But the need to hold his hand will remain. 
I have absolutely zero problem with this. I will hold his hand even when he finally grows taller than me (he will) 
I will be there for him. We will walk side by side. Hand in hand. Father and son. For as long as he needs me too.

And if any foolish person should ever dare to stare or say something very regretful. 
I should also mention I am a competition winning axe thrower ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ–• 
Just saying ๐Ÿคจ